How to Deal With Arrogant Writers?

Something has been bothering me for a while now— I’ll do the honor of withholding names, but I need to let this off my chest. I’M TIRED OF DEALING WITH POETS WHO THINK THEY’RE TOO COOL FOR SCHOOL! They’re out there and you have probably already met them. You know the ones, in the academic field, dictating what is and what isn’t poetry. Or how about the one at the poetry slams getting a lot of hype, acting genuine on stage and arrogant once they’re off?

A friend and I recently experienced this treatment, which pissed me off, because the circle has a lot of humbling people. Like, we don’t need bad apples in the mix. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t like everyone in the community and I don’t expect everyone to like me. But some of the snobbery I received was unwarranted, so I don’t know why they’re acting like that. There are a lot of pioneers that gave poetry a pretentious rep, we don’t need people egging this element on. Is being humble, so hard?

How do you guys handle these situations?

To’Wednesday Sibley

How to Deal With Arrogant Writers?

9 thoughts on “How to Deal With Arrogant Writers?

  1. it’s these character types that deter me from joining a writers group, or poetry open mic night etc…. it’s akin to listening to a piece of beautiful music and having some arrogant muso analyze it and vocalise about how to truly appreciate it. jesus. can’t i just FEEL the music and make my own mind up…?
    it’s the same in every creative field. there is no correct way to appreciate a piece of creativity – a painting, a photograph, a play, an opus, a poem…
    we call either ‘connect’ with it, or we don’t. nothing can change that, and, nobody should be crass to think that they can. that’s arrogance and unsavoury.
    the ‘untrained’ can be genius. perhaps they feel threatened? i can relate to a lot of what you write about.
    i guess the trick is to keep breathing… and keep writing and sharing… there is no wrong way to express yourself. just do it. “publish and be damned!” as a friend of mine cites frequently. i write for myself about what i see – always trying to find beauty in the mundane – or i write about what i feel in mind’s eye (does that make sense?) – i don’t write to accommodate other’s acceptance or fit a trend. that doesn’t work. it’s self-destructive.
    i write for me, and me alone. i do share online here and on social media and i have many followers who take time to read what i write. if i strike a chord with them, then that’s great. if they dislike it, then that’s good too because it means i have still struck a chord with them, made them feel uneasy for whatever reason… but it’s the fact i’ve made them ‘feel’ something…
    keep writing and to Hell what others think… just do what you love and love what you do… share and interact.
    when i read a piece of writing here that has moved me i ALWAYS leave a little comment for the writer – it’s always nice to know why a particular piece has moved someone, either in a positive light or negative. and it’s only fair, seeing as the writer has taken time and soul to write the piece, it only seems right to let them know why it affected me in the way it did.
    i hope this is helpful…. much kudos to you, and thanks for sharing your thoughts here. x

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    1. Girl…that happens I love seeing your fired up passion! It’s good to know I’m not alone here. I really needed to get that off my chest. When I first took my creative writing class (over three years ago) I was scared presenting my work and everything, I was even scared to write because I didn’t know if it would be good enough. Last year I said to myself “hey, you were always good you just needed to believe that” I’m welcoming criticism but I also know that hey some people will like your work others won’t, and I’m okay with that.

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  2. Madeline Windsor says:

    I came from an arts Highschool back in my teenage days, so I dealt with these types on a daily basis. It’s important to keep in mind you can learn from other people, but also just love poetry and know that the lines right now are so blurred when it comes to what makes poetry poetry, that no one is right or wrong. Just do what you do, listen to criticism, and move on and write what feels right!

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    1. Like the old saying goes “with every rule there is an exception” and that includes poetry and everything else in life. The criticism I’ve been grown to take, I have no problem with that.
      I just don’t do snobbery—like, get off your high horse! Especially if you barely have something to show for it. It’s childish to me, and having being bullied in school, obviously, it’ll rub me the wrong way.
      Usually, I just keep my distance and they keep theirs, the farthest it ever escalated was throwing sarcasm lol.


      1. If they taught me anything, it’s to keep remaining genuine on and off stage, and on paper. Your work is inspiring someone who needed to read your words, somebody is connecting with the work you produce. It doesn’t help to be a dick wad or maybe that’s what they want to people to think?


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